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How to Win Friends and Influence People

by Dale Carnegie

★★★★★ 5/5 · Poornadnyan rating

The big idea

People respond to genuine interest, appreciation and respect – so stop criticising, start listening, and make others feel important.

Read it if…

Students, professionals, sales people – anyone who works with people.

Skip it if…

You find old-fashioned examples distracting; the book is from the 1930s.

Key ideas in 2 minutes

  1. Don't criticise, condemn or complain – it only makes people defensive.
  2. Remember names and be genuinely interested in others.
  3. Let the other person feel the idea is theirs.

Our review

Nearly a century old and still one of the most useful books on people skills. The advice sounds simple, but very few of us actually practise it.

Try one principle a week at home and at work. You will notice the difference quickly.

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